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As a husband I wanted to share some of the thoughts I looked at this week. In Ephesians
5:25, we read God's command that addresses this need. "Husbands, love your wives, just as
Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her." When we think about the way Christ
loves the church, we see a sacrificial love, a tender love, and a love that is committed to acting in
the church's best interests at our Savior's own expense. God doesn't just want men to love their
wives like they love sports —He wants us to love our wives in a way that makes them feel
cherished and very special. He wants us to love our wives with a sacrificial love that puts her
needs and desires above our own.
1 Peter 3:7 gives further instruction along this line: "You husbands likewise, live with
your wives in an understanding way." The Greek literally reads, "Dwell with them according to
knowledge." The only way to live with your wife in an understanding way is to seek to know
her. And when a husband listens and responds to what his wife shares —remembering that
women are created to be verbal —she will feel cherished and understood and loved.
The last part of 1 Peter 3:7 continues, "live with your wives in an understanding way, as
with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman." This isn't a slam on women. When we read this
verse, we ought to think along the lines of a fine china cup. It's definitely weaker than a tin cup,
but that's because it's so fragile, delicate, and far more valuable. When we serve dinner on our
china, we're very careful in handling it, and extremely protective of washing and drying it. We
treat our china with tenderness and gentleness because of its fragility and value. That's how we
cherish it. And that's how a man is to treat his wife —not roughly or carelessly, but with
tenderness and gentleness, because God made women to be treated with special care.”
~B. Tolbert via htps://bible.org/article/men-are- mars-women- are-venus